Why do people lie?

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  • Nd24007
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    This a serious question... Why do people lie? 

  • RationalMadman
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    I can explain, in detail, if you'd like.
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    Yeah, i would like... So please go ahead...
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    I don't know. Why do people post in the wrong forums?
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    Don't get mad at that part.  You skipped the main issue at hands. Everybody lie, or have been lied to. So this related to everyone. 
  • TwoMan
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    People lie to get what they want. That could be anything like money, respect, admiration, accolades, acceptance, to cause someone harm, to spare someone from harm, an attempt to conceal an immoral or illegal act, etc. Ultimately they want something and see lying as the way to get it.
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    You are Right.

    For sure to "to cause someone harm"  This is the best answer you put.  
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    is a liar a liar because he lies or does he lie because he's a liar..?
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    Please read these three articles start-to-end. Once done, tell me anything you struggled to understand. If nothing, you will have the answer.


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    Self-preservation. People lie to ensure their own welfare and continuing survival. For us, honesty comes second to unmet needs.
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    There's many examples of it being very different purpose than self defence/preservation.

    It can often be purely sadistic to force the other to be on the defence and that's only one of the alternate purposes.
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    Sadists are no less interested in self-preservation than you or I -- I'd allege that their sadistic desires formed as a means of preserving themselves.

    I'm curious as to any specific examples you may have of self-interest not being a factor in being dishonest.
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    some people lie about extremely stupid shit, that people only pretend to believe to humor them. Those are the type of liars that really annoy me. My brother’s wife is one of them. I just google every retarded thing she says and immediately point out how stupid she is and then she twists it and says well I meant —insert unprovable counter retard claim—-. 
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    I'm curious as to any specific examples you may have of self-interest not being a factor in being dishonest.
    Lying about someone's appearance is doing so to prevent them from being hurt, not self-interest.

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    You are wrong. On top of being sadistic and solely attacking with lies there exist lies for fun.

    Most catfishes are not human traffickers, they are people who get a rise out of being loved etc and are not actually worried about the rejection of the 'real them' but are purely greedy about being a master of the art of being the fake them.

    There's also examples of lying for totally non-defensive reasons that are non-attack and non-thrilling but this is by very strange people who want to test the others' ability to discover the lie among many other very eccentric people lying in many unusual scenarios.

    On top of that, lying is simply having the intent to deceive and it is very important to understand that sometimes one may tell the truth out of self-preservation where lying would have been better had they had the courage. Examples include snitches, the epitome being Snowden who acted entirely against self-defense in not lying and he exposed a lie that was THE GOVERNMENT POSING AS SELF-PRESERVING while actually being quite different indeed.
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    No, it's to prevent guilt. If the commenter values their relationship with the other person, then they probably don't want to risk hurting it by being truthful in that instance.
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    No, it's to prevent guilt. If the commenter values their relationship with the other person, then they probably don't want to risk hurting it by being truthful in that instance.
    No. There are instances where someone genuinely cares about the feelings of others and doesn't wish to hurt them. If you can't comprehend that, you may be a sociopath.

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    To be clear about what I just said.

    Snowden acted entirely against self-interest by lying to those who could hurt, would hurt and had Russia not enabled him basically did hurt his quality of life and reputation.

    Snowden then acted further against self-interest by not enabling the government to lie in that it was posing as self-defence what was a lie for entirely malicious purposes or so he said (the truth is Snowden was only half-right, NSA really is concerned about stopping terrorists and human trafficking but is additionally concerned with pleasing the corrupt officials who keep it legal and powerful)
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    People create fake online dating profiles to prevent themselves from experiencing rejection/scorn/embarrassment related to their real-life selves...their attempts to prevent harm to themselves is self-preservation.

    Deceit isn't the only means of self-preservation, I agree there...so I'm not sure how the Snowden example is relevant.
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    No, some do but not all do. You are ill-informed of non-self-preserving motives to lie. Either that or you ARE informed and are lying to fool others into seeing me as wrong which is little to do with self-preservation unless you were ignorant at first but realised you are wrong later on.
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    Deceit isn't the only means of self-preservation, I agree there...so I'm not sure how the Snowden example is relevant.
    I understand you typed this while I posted the following post so I'll repeat it here:
    Snowden acted entirely against self-interest by lying to those who could hurt, would hurt and had Russia not enabled him basically did hurt his quality of life and reputation.

    Snowden then acted further against self-interest by not enabling the government to lie in that it was posing as self-defence what was a lie for entirely malicious purposes or so he said (the truth is Snowden was only half-right, NSA really is concerned about stopping terrorists and human trafficking but is additionally concerned with pleasing the corrupt officials who keep it legal and powerful)

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    There are instances where someone genuinely cares about the feelings of others and doesn't wish to hurt them.
    I don't dispute this -- I'm stating that the person is also concerned about their relationship with the other person, or the other person's view of them. Either could be at stake when the commenter is truthful, which explains the reasoning behind lying.

    If the commenter was not worried about how their relationship being somehow damaged/weakened, there's no reason they would be deceitful.
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    Snowden acted entirely against self-interest by lying to those who could hurt, would hurt and had Russia not enabled him basically did hurt his quality of life and reputation.
    How did he lie again? I thought the original point was that he was being truthful in self-defense.

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    He lied deeply, daily, to his employers and colleagues in order to attain the data he did.
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    If the commenter was not worried about how their relationship being somehow damaged/weakened, there's no reason they would be deceitful.
    Wrong again. One need not be concerned with the health of a relationship to be concerned about preserving someone's feelings (it is possible but not necessary). It's called empathy. They simply don't want to hurt the other person.