The ban log question was considered in a MEEP and failed to pass the required threshold to be adopted. I understand it's appeal, but I also understand why someone might reasonably object to it. I think it is important to respect the MEEP process that the community adopted.
I tend to give multiple warnings before bans, even repeat bans. When someone comes back, they have an opportunity to join in the community again without prejudice. If they continue misconduct, consequences will naturally escalate, but they are always given the chance to change their behavior. This applied (and applies) to Poly to the same extent as it does every other user on DDO.
Finally, I do think moderation is generally laissez-faire. Users are almost never banned for their first, second, or even third warnings. I don't usually ban people for individual infractions, but rather usually only when they accumulate numerous infractions. It usually takes somewhere around 20 individual, noteworthy infractions (i.e. 3 warnings) to trigger a first moderation response. To me, that seems fairly lenient. Most reports are never even acted upon because they're judged to be too minor to warrant moderation action or because they were never really violations at all.
If Poly wants to comment on her ban after she returns, she may. I am not going to comment on it beyond what I have already said.