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Women Love Men Who are Generally Attractive more than Specifically Attractive

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Resolution:
Women are more attracted to men who have adopted a holistic dating strategy than men who are excellent at one specific thing.

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(2) Place your arguments and sources inside the debate
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(1) Acceptance
(2) Main Argument
(3) Rebuttal to opponent's main argument. No new arguments.
(4) Evaluation of main arguments and rebuttals + voting issues (one paragraph). No new arguments.

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Holistic - focused on the sum total of the person; including physical, Mental, Emotional and other characteristics of the individual and his life

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I have the burden of proof.

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Round 1
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Resolution: 
Women are more attracted to men who have adopted a holistic dating strategy than men who are excellent at one specific thing.

Rules:
(1) Debater must have typing experience and internet access. 
(2) Place your arguments and sources inside the debate
(3) Structure the debate in a readable, coherent way. 
(4) No semantics, trolling, or lawyering. Keep the focus on solid argumentation not on tricks or technicalities.

Rounds:
(1) Acceptance 
(2) Main Arguments
(3) Rebuttal to opponent's main arguments. No new arguments. 
(4) Evaluation of main arguments and rebuttals + voting issues (one paragraph). No new arguments.

Definitions: 
Holistic - focused on the sum total of the person; including physical, Mental, Emotional and other characteristics of the individual and his life

Burden of Proof: 
Shared burden of proof.

By accepting this debate you accept the Rules, Rounds, Definitions, And BOP.

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The nature of your claim is ultimately subjective.  When you make a statement about what woman prefer , you invoke a lot of different woman with a lot of different opinions. 

If I am to be generous with the title, I could go as far as the to say that proving a 51% majority of woman would be sufficient.  However, there problems. 

1. You're not a mind reader.  
This is actually the key issue.  You can't know what every woman wants.  If you can't know what every woman wants, Then there is no way to extrapolate any kind of true data.  We would just end up with subjective guesses about subjective feelings that we have no real data on.  

2.  Tracking approaches. 
The mind reader problem applies here was well.  We can't read the mind of all men and know what dating approach they're using.  furthermore, the topic is not a true dichotomy because it does not include cases of hybrids who use two or three approaches, but no holistic ones.  That means there are multiple categories that you need to debunk that puts the burden of proof on your, because I don't have to claim a single approach.  I only have to prove that your way doesn't enjoy a majority or other approaches. 

3. People don't always know. 
Woman don't always know what they like until they get it.  In fact, many woman simply fall for guys just on looks and then just tolerate their personality, so how does your holistic approach apply here?  Men also don't always know what approach they're using.  They might just be spit balling. 


Summary:

There are simply too many variables to track.  whenever subjectivity is involved, it's almost always impossible to get good proof. 

Your floor. 
Round 2
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Round 1 was for acceptance. Round 2 is for your main arguments.

Evolutionary Argument
“Choosing a mate is a complex task, and so we do not expect to find simple answers to what women want.” -David Buss, Evolutionary Psychology, 2012

Men provide food, find and create shelter, defend territory, and protect children. They tutor children in sports, hunting, fishing, hierarchy negotiation, friendship, and social influence. They transfer status, aiding offspring in forming social alliances later in life. Women look for behavioral, physical, and material cues from a man to determine if he can meet these criteria. (David Buss, Evolutionary Psychology, 2012).

Women’s evolved mate preference (EMP) is used to select mates who are attractive in general in order to solve several adaptive problems (AP) in survival and in the replication of their genes (Smuts, 1995). The more effectively a man solves each adaptive problem, the more a women will prefer him as a mate:
  • AP1 - Selecting a mate able to invest. EMP - ambitiousness and industriousness, financial prospects, social status, older age; size, strength, and athletic ability
  • AP2 - Selecting a mate who is willing to invest. EMP - Dependability and stability, love and commitment cues, positive interactions with children
  • AP3 - Selecting a mate who is able to physically protect her and her children. EMP - Size (muscularity and height), bravery, athletic ability.
  • AP4 - Selecting a mate who will show good parenting skills. EMP - Dependability, emotional stability, kindness, positive interactions with children
  • AP5 - Selecting a mate who is compatible. EMP - similar values, similar ages, similar personalities
  • AP6 - Selecting a mate who is healthy. EMP - Physical attractiveness, symmetry, health, masculinity, good immune system

A mate who is able and willing to invest in a woman and her children (a hardworking man with high social status) yet is unable to protect her or her children (weak, small, timid, and unathletic) would be seen as unattractive, because he does not solve an adaptive problem in a woman’s mating strategy. In plain English: what good is a man providing resources for a woman or her children if he can’t protect them against getting killed by a bear?

Scientific Argument
Why women have sex is complex and multifaceted, containing varying combinations of motivations. We identified 237 distinct sexual motivations that covered an astonishing variety of psychological nuance. (Cindy Meston, David Buss, 2009)

In the book Why Women Have Sex by sexual psychophysiologist Cindy Meston and evolutionary psychologist David Buss, they mention many attraction triggers in women backed up by over 1000 scientific studies.

Women’s Sexual Attraction and Romantic Attraction for Men is Comprised of Many Factors:
Smell: A man’s smell is a sign of his immune functioning from his MHC gene. The more different the MHC gene, the more a woman’s sexual responsiveness to her partner increased. (Santos, 2005) Women are a lot more sensitive to bad odors than men [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2693767/]

Repeated Contact (up to a point): Women are more attracted to a man as exposures increase. (Moreland, Beach, Exposure effect in the classroom, 1992)

Height: associated with higher social status, more physical protection, and health. (Sexual Strategies Theory, Buss, 1993)

Muscularity: Women desire strong, muscular, athletic men for long-term mating as well as sexual liaisons. (Sexual Strategies Theory, Buss, 1993)

Deep Voice: Women are more attracted to men with deeper voices both for long-term mating and short-term sexual encounters. (Dominance and Sexual Dimorphism in Human Voice Pitch, Puts, 2006)

Movement: How a man moves, walks, and dances offer cues as to his motor control, social dominance, and status. (Attraction to Masculinity, Provost, 2008)

Sense of Humor: Produces positive emotions in women and can show intelligence trait as well.

Self-Confidence: Makes a woman feel like she can trust a man’s guidance, and also shows strong mental health.

Fame: Fame is exclusive and scarce, but the main things are that it comes packaged with social status and resources. (Buss, 2009)

Pre-Selection: Women found men most attractive when they were surrounded by other women, because women who mate with men who radiate sex appeal to other women are more likely to give birth to sons who do the same, perpetuating a woman’s genes. (Sexy-Sons Hypothesis, Fisher, 1930)

Similarity: women are attracted to men who share similar attitudes and beliefs, because it produces more positive emotions and mutual understanding.

As a bonus, here are some of the main traits from Mate by Tucker Max and evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller:
1. Sense of Humor
2. Intelligence (𝘌𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴)
3. Altruism (𝘋𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘎𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘋𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴)
4. Social Status (𝘊𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘉𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘞𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘗𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘔𝘦𝘯)
5. Mindfulness (𝘗𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘈𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘕𝘰𝘯-𝘑𝘶𝘥𝘨𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭)
6. Older Men (~3 𝘠𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘖𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘳)
7. Limited Availability
8. Having a Dog
9. Primal Traits (𝘚𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘓𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴, 𝘏𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘔𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘍𝘪𝘳𝘦)
10. Happiness (𝘎𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘔𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩)
11. Will-Power
12. Muscular, Healthy Body (𝘔𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘣𝘧 %)
13. Assertiveness
14. Wealth (𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘥: 𝘈𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘙𝘦𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘍𝘶𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘖𝘧𝘧𝘴𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨)
15. Leadership



Women are not attracted to men who are excellent at one specific thing.

Autistic Savants
  • Autistic Savants are people who have significant mental disabilities but demonstrate an extraordinary, specific ability: e.g. rapid calculation, artistic ability, map making, or musical ability. Usually just one special skill is present.
  • Are they attractive to women? No. Many autistic characteristics go against typical dating norms, running counter to mainstream conceptions of how to express affection and love. People with autism are rarely considered in romantic contexts.
  • Basic, non-sexual touching is uncomfortable. Big smiles can be frightening and eye contact that darts back and forth often makes other people uncomfortable. Autistic people don't understand flirting and it seems complex and nonsensical. They have difficulty in processing social cues from others as well.


Why examples of professional athletes, actors, and musicians fail
  • Yes, these are examples of men who have an extraordinary ability in one field and yes, they are attractive to women, but notice how they are also attractive in general. At a high level these people all have high industriousness, social acuity in making deals to improve their careers, and usually sought after by women creating more competition for them.
  • Athlete: good physical fitness and health, strength for protecting her and offspring, industriousness and financial prospects for providing resources, higher testosterone produces a lower voice which is more sexually arousing, good body. He fulfills many if not all EMP’s of women.
  • Actor: Excellent grooming, hygiene, appearance, facial symmetry. High social status and ability to socialize and empathize. Wealth, lifestyle of freedom and good emotions. He fulfills many if not all EMP’s of women.
  • Musicians: Intelligence, motor skills for playing instruments, fame (social status), wealth, pre-selection being surrounded by women, often good looking and physically fit. He fulfills many if not all EMP’s of women.
  • These people who are excellent at one thing are also generally attractive as well and set up their lives to maximize the women in them.

Weakness in one or several areas can act as a killswitch for attraction, for example:
Bad smell: How a man smells is critical. A man’s bad breath or bad body odor can be a killswitch for sexual attraction in women. (Buss, Meston, 2009)
Anger Issues: If a man is generally attractive, but extremely horrible with his temper, women's self-preservation kicks in as she becomes unattracted


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Wrick-It-Ralph
Con
I did things out of order by accident.  So this will count as my acceptance round. 
Round 3
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Human
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Rebuttal Round

The nature of your claim is ultimately subjective.  When you make a statement about what woman prefer , you invoke a lot of different woman with a lot of different opinions. 
  • I may make a statement (assertion) about what women prefer, but it is substantiated by the best scientific evidence and evolutionary models that exist. As seen in my argument, I make reference to many studies, several evolutionary models, book reviews of 1000's of studies, and quotes from the most reputable evolutionary psychologists on the planet [note that is not a fallacious argument from authority, because the evolutionary psychologists are in consensus with these points and this is their area of expertise].
  • In studies that poll women's opinions and experiences, they are valid scientific polls published in reputable scientific journals. A valid opinion poll requires a random sample of population, a statistically significant number for the sample size, and non-bias questioning so that the answer of the question is truthful and valid. For certain types of scientific questions where techniques and instruments are not currently able to detect things significantly, scientifically valid polls are some of the best evidence we have.
  • For many studies on female arousal a technique called "Vaginal photoplethysmography" is used to measure the amount of blood in the walls of the vagina with light. So that can go an objective level beyond self-reporting or other forms of observation, which is the most accurate you can get with testing of arousal and attraction. 
  • As indicated in round 1, we have a shared burden of proof. I must show why women are more attracted to men who are more holistically attractive (in mind, body, personality, and materially) and con must show why women are more attracted to men who are hyperattractive in one specialized area. So any claims as to subjectivity (if that is one of his main points) apply equally to him as well.


However, there problems. 
This should be: There are* problems.


1. You're not a mind reader.  
This is actually the key issue.  You can't know what every woman wants.  If you can't know what every woman wants, Then there is no way to extrapolate any kind of true data.  We would just end up with subjective guesses about subjective feelings that we have no real data on.  
Again, my argument is not from my subjective feelings; it is from the aggregation of 1000's of scientific studies on attraction, arousal, dating, sex, and relationships.

For example: the evolutionary model of women's attraction by means of an evolved mate preference (EMP) used to select mates who are attractive in general in order to solve several adaptive problems (AP). This explains that women experience increased attractiveness toward men who solve more of her adaptive problems more effectively. 

Many additional studies prove that women are attracted sexually and romantically to over a dozen male traits from how he smells to how assertive he is; also there are varying combinations of factors and motivations for why women experience sexual response and have sex with men.

When evolutionary models, current scientific evidence, and answers to scientific polls all converge on the same point: that women are attracted to men who follow a more holistic dating strategy (attractive in mind, body, personality, and material ways), that's the most accurate and truthful we can get. Evolution predicts it; women say it; and science proves it.


2.  Tracking approaches. 
The mind reader problem applies here was well. 
We can't read the mind of all men and know what dating approach they're using.
The "mind reader problem" has been addressed above. Women say what they are attracted to, they are measured with vaginal photoplethysmography to detect what attracts and arouses them, and the evolutionary models predict what they will be attracted to in order to solve adapted problems of survival and reproduction.

Furthermore, the topic is not a true dichotomy because it does not include cases of hybrids who use two or three approaches, but no holistic ones.  That means there are multiple categories that you need to debunk that puts the burden of proof on your, because I don't have to claim a single approach.  I only have to prove that your way doesn't enjoy a majority or other approaches. 
There is no dichotomy, because attraction is on a spectrum and as shown in my argumentation, the more a man fulfills a woman's evolved mating preferences, the more attractive he will be.


3. People don't always know. 
Woman don't always know what they like until they get it. 
Addressed with previous points of vaginal photoplethysmography, thousands of studies testing extremely specific things in human attraction and mating, and the aggregation of scientific poll data from women's responses. 

Women*

In fact, many woman simply fall for guys just on looks and then just tolerate their personality, so how does your holistic approach apply here? 
There is no warrant for this assertion and no source provided. It seems like con's statement of subjectivity applies more strongly to his own argument than mine. Science and arguments are more accurate and persuasive than con's opinionated assertion. 

Taken seriously, I would like to point out that the resolution concerns what is women are more attracted to, not what they will tolerate.

In fact, the very use of the phrase "tolerate their personality" implies that the women would be happier with a man who has good looks and a good personality. This is a clear point for pro.

women*

Men also don't always know what approach they're using.  They might just be spit balling. 
A man's knowledge and awareness of what strategies he is using to attract a woman is irrelevant to how the women experience them and also irrelevant to the debate, because we are debating what women are attracted to and we are not debating whether or not the men are aware of the concentration of androstenol in their sweat, their social status, or the pitch of their voice.

Summary:
There are simply too many variables to track. 
There are thousands of extremely specific studies that track the most minute detail of what women are attracted to and control for factors such as where the women are in their menstrual cycle.
  • For example, a study that tested the smell of a men's shirts after working out and how attractive women found the men based on their shirt smell. They found that women were more attracted to the men who produced more androstenol which is a chemical associated with higher testosterone in men.
  • Or in the voice study, women listened to over a hundred different voices and rated the lower-pitched voices more attractive universally.
Again, this is more of an attack on science in general than on my position. And as con has a shared burden of proof, he most demonstrate why women prefer men who are hyper-attractive in one characteristic (excessive wealth, mathematical ability, etc).

This is a point for pro.


whenever subjectivity is involved, it's almost always impossible to get good proof. 
Again, given the fact that thousands of scientific studies have covered these topics in as rigorous detail as possible, the subjectivity argument is patently false.


Summary: 
Con said my claims are subjective, but scientific evidence, scientific polling, and evolutionary models are as objective as we can get. Also, this claim would apply equally to him.

Con said women don't know what they're attracted to. This argument fails because vaginal photoplethysmography can measure her arousal, scientific pollinng aggregates female responses, and evolutionary models predict what she will be attracted to. Also, I don't have to defend science in this debate because evidence and science should apply equally to con since we have a shared burden of proof as indicated in round 1.


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Okay. I'm going to start off by point out that there is no shared BoP in this debate.  You're advocating that woman like a certain type of guy who is "generally attractive"  I am not arguing that woman like any particular kind of guy.  I'm only here to say that I don't buy your claim.  I'm usually fine with shared BoP.  But in this case it is not appropriate.  I would also like to remind you that you do not decide the burden of proof.  The nature of the debate itself does.  

With that said, I will, of course, meet the BoP on any claims that I make against you aside from my general skeptical comments. 

Rebuttal time. 


I'm really itching to address your round 3 statements, but I'll be a good little elephant and do things right and deal with that at rejoinders .


I'm going to save us some time on the evolutionary argument.  I agree that our biology does indeed tell us to look for a mate with certain survival skills. No problems here.  I will note that nothing here specifically supports your claim that men have to adopt a holistic strategy.  It just shows that woman have a very complicated system of choosing men.  Which actually hurts your case if you ask me.  One thing science can't do is read the mind.  At least not yet anyway.  The main problem with this whole line of reasoning is that we're trying to quantify data on something that is not quantifiable.  Your evidence shows that woman have so many different cues they use, that it would be impossible to pin down what they specifically want.  Plus, how do you account for woman wanting different things?  If a holistic strategy is the goal, then it would naturally follow that woman like a holistic strategy, but some woman don't.  Explanation? 

On the scientific argument I disagree.  Saying woman have a complex set of reasons is vacuous.  Everything that humans do has a complex set of motivations behind it.  You're just putting a microscope on the problem and trying to make it look more complicated than it is.  Woman have sex to ultimately reproduce.  The body makes sex feel good as a reward for reproduction.  The judgements that woman make about a man's traits are largely arbitrary and every woman likes different qualities, but ultimately just come down to making a child with good survival traits.  Any problem sound profound when you focus on it in the wrong scope. 

On the many behaviors thing.  It's just not true.  Most woman decide if they like a guy within several minutes of meeting him.  If what you say is true, this wouldn't be the case because the man would have to present all of these many holistic traits within several minutes, which is impossible.  Woman decide if they like you or not.  Then they decide how many of your "holistic" traits that they're willing to put up with.  Speaking as a married man here.

On a side note.  Are you married?  Just curious, nothing to do with the debate. You seem to know this holistic strategy pretty well.  So if it's so awesome, you must be happily married right? just wondering, because I didn't do holistic anything.  My wife decided she liked me based solely off 2 or 3 factors.  not hundreds of them like you claim.

I'm not trying to completely discredit you here.  I do believe that there are subtle factors at work.  But I feel like you're trying to take a Taoist approach and balance it out like it's some perfect system.  It's not.  Dating is total chaos and anyone who tells you otherwise is mistaken. 

I'm not sure why you bring autistic people into this.  That seems dishonest to me.  Is this your idea of a "specifically attractive person"?  I think not.  How can you prove that it's not the autistic part keeping the woman away instead of the savant part.  The short answer is that you can't.  The best way for you to prove your case is to Steelman the argument.  You should present the counter of your argument in the best light so that there's no doubt in people's minds when you knock it down.  The straw man you just knocked down just make me suspicious as to why you needed a strawman instead of a Steelman.  Was the Steelman too hard to knock down?  

Like I said before.  I'm not here to advocate for a specific dating strategy and I don't claim that a specific system works.  I'm here to be the skeptic and say that we can't know what works best because we're not mind readers.  

Moving on.  When you bring up weaknesses.  There is a flaw in your plan.  You put "bad smell" and "anger issues"  This is another strawman because you're suppose to be arguing that your position is superior to specifically attractive.  You're posing it against completely unattractive.  Why aren't we talking about people with neutral smells and neutral emotion issues?  The answer is because those people are successful and prove that a holistic approach is not needed.  I knew a guy in high school that smelled like rotten beef a roni (my words back then) and got more girls than I did.  There's not rhyme or reason to it.  You're not a mind reader.  You're not a guru.  You don't have all the answers. 

Your floor. 


Round 4
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Human
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Evaluation of main arguments and rebuttals + voting issues (one paragraph). No new arguments.

I'm going to start off by point out that there is no shared BoP in this debate...
The time to disagree with BoP is not the 3rd round of the debate, it's in the first round or before the debate starts. Too late. 

The debate resolution says X is better than Y, so I prove that and you prove that Y is better than X. This resolution is conducive to shared BoP.


I will note that nothing here specifically supports your claim that men have to adopt a holistic strategy. 
In round two, I laid out the evolutionary argument in which The more effectively a man solves each adaptive problem, the more a women will prefer him as a mate" and I listed the 6 adaptive problems women face for survival and reproduction, as well as the evolved mate preferences for each.

Then, I explained why a holistic strategy is important for men to employ (bear example).

[Questioning Science]
Science is only our closest approximation of the truth, and where certain things are unquantifiable, qualitative responses are analyzed, such as the case of scientific polling. It's not my job to prove science is omniscient.

The judgements that woman make about a man's traits are largely arbitrary
I disproved this in the previous round. Women's desires for a mate are not arbitrary, they have been crafted over millions of years of evolution. The main qualities of male attractiveness that women desire are quite universal and consistent even within different cultures, socioeconomic levels, and age groups.

The evolutionary argument and the scientific argument fit together hand-in-glove, and the research backs this up at every turn. There may be outliers, but in general women tend to prefer ambitious, rich, physically fit, humorous, kind men who have high testosterone, high status, and similar values.

Men don't need to be Jeff Bezos rich or as Arnold Schwarzenegger fit. As long as they solve the adaptive problems women face in mating choices by being generally attractive, that is what women are attracted to.


Most woman decide if they like a guy within several minutes of meeting him. 
I don't know of any evidence to suggest this is true. Regardless of the number of minutes to decide whether she "likes a guy" (code for being attracted), it's important to see what she's looking for during that time period. She is analyzing the guy for the cues he shows.

Let's look at a girl meeting guy at a bar for example.

She sees him first.
  • Size, height, muscularity, facial symmetry, motor skills while walking.
He approaches her and talks to her
  • Bravery in approach, social status, humor, intelligence, social skills, dominance, assertiveness, comfortability in sexuality, empathy, self-confidence, deep voice.
He leads her to the bar.
  • Leadership
He buys her a drink.
  • Material proof of having resources, kindness, assertiveness in way of ordering
He kisses her.
  • Biochemical sample of his immune system's compatibility with hers.
He leads her home.
  • Leadership, resourcefulness dealing with logistics, empathy dealing with her situation with friends/schedule.
They get more intimate.
  • Empathy, social skills, level of testosterone
He fucks her.
  • Dominance, deep voice, assertiveness, leadership, movement (motor coordination), chemical cues, athleticism 😉
So as you can see, her attraction, comfort, and connection to him increases as a function of time with the variety of situations they go through where she can view and sense the qualities of his attractiveness.


[Men would have to display all traits in 5 minutes]
As shown above, a woman can have a pretty accurate perception of a man's attractiveness in a 60 minute interaction due in part to the variety of situations presented and how the man handles them.

We form perceptions of people quite quickly. If a guy is too timid to get the bartender's attention or too shy to speak with a loud, deep voice to a woman, we form the impression that he is a shy, lower-status male.

Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy says we form impressions within 2 seconds.

Woman decide if they like you or not. 
No source for this. Women's attractiveness is like a volume knob, increasing over time as more attractive cues are acquired form observing the man: how he behaves, how people respond to him, and how she interacts with him.

Are you married?  My wife decided she liked me b/c of 3 factors. 
I've had a girlfriend for 6 months and I'm not sure my thoughts on marriage. I'm also a pretty respected dating coach for men, so I have a professional as well as personal interest in this stuff.

And also, like in the studies I've mentioned there could be a lot of things she is not consciously aware of but increases her attraction to you.

I'm not sure why you bring autistic people into this.  Is this your idea of a "specifically attractive person"? 
Good question. I bring the autistic savants into this debate to demonstrate that a person who is extremely attractive in one category like intelligence but severely lacking in other areas such as social skills, social status, or humor are not attractive to women and have difficulties dating.

It's not the only example of a "specifically attractive person."

Another example could be the industrious rich older man who has amassed a fortune, and while women may date or even fuck him, they are repulsed by him and essentially use him as a human credit card.

When you bring up weaknesses.   You put "bad smell" and "anger issues"  This is another strawman because You're posing [your argument] against completely unattractive. 
No, a person could be attractive in several ways but ALSO smell like crap. That lack of attractiveness in that area massively outweighs others.

Why aren't we talking about people with neutral smells and neutral emotion issues? 
People with neutral smell and not bad emotional issues can still be generally attractive when combined with other traits and behaviors that I've listed.

I knew a guy in high school that smelled like rotten beef a roni (my words back then) and got more girls than I did. 
While this anecdote is hilarious, it should not be valued higher than science. We avoid those who smell "bad" which in some cases is an inbreeding avoidance mechanism that prevents harmful genetic consequences. Also, the fertility and health of someone in general can be determined through some sniffy sniffs.


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Arguments - I have explained the evolutionary argument for why women are attracted to many traits of a man and why he needs to meet her six adapative problems of survival and reproduction. I have explained the scientific argument for what women are attracted to. Con made no arguments for his side of the resolution (women are attracted to men who are excellent at one specific thing), and instead just used every round as a rebuttal round. I met my BoP. Vote pro for arguments.
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Burden of Proof isn't established by me posting it at a certain time.  It's established by the nature of the arguments posed in the debate.  Every claim bears it's own individual BoP.  So it doesn't matter if I point out something that was already true.  You're just trying to sneak in a fake burden by setting an arbitrary rule that I can't state what the BoP is after the first round.  If your argument was strong enough to pass the burden, you wouldn't have to do this. 

Yes, your statement is X  is better Y.  My argument is there is no better strategy.  The strategy depends on the woman.  That's a valid proof.  Your argument implies that I'm a player and I just want to pick up as many women as possible.  What if I want one specific woman as a wife and she only wants specific things out of me?  I showed a case where Y is better than X.  Your argument is restrictive and makes too many assumptions. 

Your evolution argument only proved that woman like certain characteristics.  It does not prove that your strategy is ubiquitous in application. 

I'm not questioning science.  I'm questioning your pseudo science. Science supports my claim that different woman = different strategy.  You also fail to overlook the fact that those holistic qualities can work against you.  What if the woman likes some of your qualities but the other ones turn her off?  Now your system is working against itself.  You could hide those qualities if you want to be a dirty liar I guess, but the thing about lying is that it gets harder over time and after enough lies your house of cards will fall and then every girl in the neighborhood will know your a player and avoid you like the plague.  Then what? 

You're just saying they're not arbitrary.  They really are.  A woman could fall in love with me because I said something really cool onetime and then everything after that was just chemistry.  It doesn't really matter why they're initially attracted to you.  Once they're with you all that goes out the window and they stay with you because you share certain beliefs or lifestyles, etc.  None of that has anything to do with a holistic "strategy"  People cling to people who are like them or make up for what they lack, etc.  They're puzzle pieces, not magnets. 

No evidence huh?  I guess you've never been to a bar and seen a woman instantly start walking towards a man to fawn for him.  There is no strategy to chemistry.  The man was just the right puzzle piece. I actually read a pick up book once when I was younger.  They had this account of a real woman met a guy in the bar who told this chick a cheesy joke while she wasn't looking at him, she was about to raise her head to shoo him away and then she looked at his face and instantly fell for the guy and married him.  Later on when she had a picture of her dad, she realized that her dad's eyes were spread out on his face, just like her husbands and that was likely the reason she fell for him.  Because he had a comforting familiarity.  What does any of that have to do with strategy?  

That's just false.  All of the qualities you showed are strictly superficial and would easily breakdown if the woman stayed with you long term.  If you want to be a player, then cool, but like my example for before showed, it will ultimately backfire on you. 

Oh, you're a dating coach.  Well I guess you have a bias towards this topic then right?  Because your profession necessarily requires you to have a strategy.  What about all of the people who don't need your help? Why are they doing so well without a strategy?  I think a dating coach is just a shortcut.  Not saying it isn't useful.  If you get the guy paired up with the right woman, then things could work out for them, but you do realize that you're really just he ice breaker in the equation right?  

Are you making the assumption that an autistic person can't get woman?  Because that's not true.  I've known at least two that are total chick bait.  Savants get laid too and tend to get married.  Savant isn't really a formal term anyway.  It's subjective.  Some people would call Bobby Fischer a savant, but he was still good at other things.  It just seemed like he was only good at chess because he was so darn good at it. 

Oh no.  You're not dodging this one.  You said holistic dating strategy.  If you can take pieces out and it still works, then it's not holistic. By your strategy, a person with a neutral smell would be worse and that's not the case.  Plenty of people with neutral smells do just fine.  This is a hole in your strategy. 

You mean pseudo science.  What makes a smell bad?  Our opinion.  While I thought he smelled like beef a roni, the chicks apparently liked beef a roni.  So you can cite "science" all you want.  But science doesn't make absolute claims the way you are. 



Appealing to the voters.  hmmm.  Yeah I guess I would do that too if I had weak arguments.  Here I'll help you out.  Vote PRO!!!  His beliefs won't be true otherwise. 


I don't care about winning, I care about truth.  Winning is nice though because it means I did a good job convincing people, so winning makes me happy for that reason in addition to the normal motivations for winning things. 

I know I was harsh, but that's my style. 

Good debate to my well conducted opponent.