It does also get at the edges of something I have understand for a long time though. And which is obvious, honestly. It wasn't hard to get.
The whole humans are inherently sinful story, ask forgiveness and be forgiven, gild the church in gold, is obviously to give carte blanche to the person who buys in to do whatever shitty thing is in their heart without ever having to give a thought to who and what they are afterwards. They're a Christian.
This is something the American right are putting on full show today. And for as long as I've ever argued with them tbh.
That's the commodity. Sin is what you're purchasing.
There is no god presiding over this farce. Next time you ask forgiveness think maybe if I was a little less shit a person I wouldn't have to.
Sin is an offence against God. Yet we all offend each other at times. While God may forgive our sins. This should never prevent us from apologising to others or asking their forgiveness.
I concede that sometimes people think that if they're right with God, they don't need to also apologise. I agree that it is bad form. Sometimes, however it is impossible to forgive people and sometimes it is difficult to apologise. For all sorts of reasons. A couple in our church lost their son in a car accident. The criminals who are locked up - will never apologise and do not wish to see the couple who lost their son. They tell me - they have forgiven the criminal - or that they have a forgiving attitude towards him.
I think sometimes we can forgive people in a judgmental way. My mother-in-law told my father-in-law, after they were divorced, that she forgave him for offending her. He responded in a manner that was hard because he didn't think he had done anything wrong, and that her forgiveness was judgmental.
I have a bible in my office - produced by a charismatic group, which in the appendix at the back teaches people how to forgive God. I think this is blasphemous. How can God be forgiven if he has never done anything wrong? The issue comes down to what is forgiveness? Is it to get rid of our resentment? Or is it to reconcile? Or is it something else? I think forgiveness ought to be part of a reconciliation package and not separated.
I take the view that we should apologise when we have done something wrong. And we should also ask for forgiveness. We shouldn't expect forgiveness, though. And we shouldn't expect others to apologise. Treat others how you want to be treated - but never EXPECT others to treat you in the same way.