Should wives obey their husbands?

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It is a complicated issue, no?
But if it is exactly what the woman wants, and there is no intimidation absolutely. So I must support her.
But I would say that it is very difficult to no the truth of an individuals mind.
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It depends on what one wants from a marriage. If my wife cannot smack me in the face when I am being unreasonable, then... well, I must have gotten into this marriage by losing a bet. I do not like women who cannot stand up for themselves, just like I do not like men who cannot stand up for themselves.
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No embarrassment.
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Why is it difficult? 
What's there to fear?
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I thinking you're ducking out of the point. Not just now .

In a partnership, does only one take on the name of the other only?
Not in all partnerships so not necessarily  
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No embarrassment.
So where then?
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Where what?
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So why in some so called partnerships one takes the name of the other?
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Are you the head of your wife?
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I do not think so. To the best of my knowledge, her head rests on her shoulders.
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Do you think it's wrong for men to be the head of their wives?
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Like I said, it depends on what one wants from a marriage. If that is what the man wants - to be the head of his wife - then it is not wrong, provided that is what the wife wants too. For me, it is wrong, because I am not interested in women who need me to lead them and cannot take their own life by the horns.
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Yes it's not wrong, bottomline.

Do you actually believe men and women are completely equal?
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No, I do not believe things that are demonstrably false. The bottom line is not that it is not wrong, it is that whether it is wrong depends on what you want from a marriage.
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So men and women are not completely equal, is that right?
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I'm guessing God doesn't believe in marriage.   Virgin Mary?
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@Mall
I have already answered this question. They are not "completely equal".
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So where do you live?
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I'm sorry I didn't read directly where you said the words " not completely equal".

See be sure to be direct because if you're not, people are going to ask to get the answer to the question.

So be it that the case, there's going to be some capacity, that she will not be able to lead herself and will look for her husband's guidance. So trying to avoid the duty of being the head is a self centered neglectful act on the man's part.

Food for thought comrade.
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I don't give out that kind of information. Nor is it necessary. Why do I or anybody need to know where someone lives except on planet earth?
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@Mall
The fact that there may be situations in which one marriage partner will want to seek guidance of another does not imply that one of the partners must be another one's head.

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How can you guide without being the head?

That's what being the head is. It's not something to be sarcastic or facetious about but has a meaning, substance and impact of things that make the difference displayed to us in reality itself.
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Yes. A librarian may guide you through the catalogue without being the head.

If you insist on equating terms "guide" and "head", then fine. But being the head in a particular situation does not imply behind the head in the marriage in general. There may be situations where my wife will need to guide me. I have not seen an argument from you for it being the preferred role for the husband.
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The husband will dominate in being the head due to the difference between men and women.

Yes, anybody guiding you is being the head . Head means control like your original non substance remark. The head is the control center.
 
We all that are non impaired have control centers but due to our differences and predominant differences one will have to act as head predominantly.
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@Mall
You have yet to explain what those specific differences are. You are also introducing a new term now: "control". Is that what you think a librarian is doing when showing me the layout - controlling me?