Aright hello everyone.
I don't know how to word this properly so I'll just jump straight into it.
I'm in an abusive relationship with my boyfriend.
To dive into headfirst I'll list off abusive things he's done to me over the year our relationship has lasted.
- Had punched me several times
- Kicked me in the balls
- Been hyper passive-aggressive with me on boy scout campouts and around mine/his friends
- At summer camp he kicked a bucket of water outside our tent ( in case of a forest fire ) for no reason
- Than when I told my dad who was the scoutmaster that he did so, he shunned me for an entire week at summer camp because he was " innocent "
Even though he was the ONLY person outside of our tent at the time, was angry at me for the whole day just because I was spending time with another friend for a few hours, and was near our tent whispering me and my tent mates names 2 seconds before the water was kicked onto our tent.
- Has talked shit about me for the entirety of summer camp to the younger scouts
- Numerous instances of him flipping me off and cursing me out for no reason
- Damaging several of my possessions on purpose
- And grabbed me and slammed me onto the ground
- Has sweared out a merit badge counselor at summer camp
- Has threatened his little sister ( in front of me )
- Has sworn out his mom, dad, older sister ( whom by the way was giving him rides home from school ), and his younger sister
- Was 20 minutes late when we were supposed to pick him up for summer camp, and than later on when my dad was discussing it with him tried to justify it. ( my dad called him out which was satisfying to watch )
I'm sorry if this seems very arbitrary or unorganized but I just needed to get this out there because I just need support right now
Because I don't have many friends aside from a few close ones and I want to keep my sexuality a secret there are very few people I can talk to.
I've talked to a few close friends about this, my parents, and my sister and they all clearly stated that I need to dump him.
I've tried my damned hardest to be a good boyfriend to him.
Me and my dad has given him rides to boy scout meetings, helped with his rank advancement, and payed for several of his meals on campouts or hikes.
I've bought him numerous gifts
6th month to the 10th month of our relationship I was very distant towards him. To the point where we have a 6th month period with no dates.
So I tried my damned hardest to spend time with him at school and go on dates with him.
He than called me clingy and that I was smothering him.
Nothing made him happy, if I didn't spend enough time with him I was distant and if I did I was clingy.
One time I was at his house playing smash brothers for 5 hours since people were looking at our house ( it was for sale )
He was angry because I wasn't spending time with him enough.
When firstly before I got on I asked what he wanted to do like if he wanted to watch a movie or play a game together and he would just reply that he didn't know. And secondly, I invited him 5 times if he wanted to play with me.
Essentially He wanted me to just be miserable for 5 hours simply because he didn't like to smash brothers.
He is quite simply poor at communication.
If he had just asked if I could get off and do something with him and named a specific activity I would've done it. Even then I still asked him several times what he wanted to do and he wouldn't give me a straight answer.
And then one fucking time this little gem fucking happened.
So like I stated earlier, he was HYPER passive aggressive with me for an entire camping week IN FRONT OF ADULTS AND OTHER SCOUTS.
For example at one point during Uno, everyone was ganging up on me ( because I had the best card deck ) and he made fun of the fact I lost the entire night.
Or another time on the trip when I was getting excited while playing smash brothers ( two kids on the trip brought their Nintendo switches and I'd charge them up in the mess hall during the day ) and he'd then say things like " oh what a nerd " or " no wonder you don't have many friends at school and this is why I don't want you to hang around my friends "
Then when we get back I sent him a message over text that I loved him and all but I needed him to stop being hyper passive-aggressive with me. And that it was annoying and rude.
Well, he was angry with me the entire week and unfollowed me on Instagram.
Essentially because he completely took EVERYTHING out of context and fucking ignored EVERYTHING I laid out to him and ONLY took out the part where I called the behavior rude and annoying.
It was right then and there, I realized he was never going to change.
Overall I've recognized that my boyfriend is a piece of shit and I need to cut ties with him. So I've decided to break up with him sometime next week over the phone.
You may say that I should do it in person however firstly, given how he's an abuser he quite frankly doesn't deserve it and secondly given his track record he'd probably punch me in the face if I broke up with him in person.
Sorry, I ranted for too long, I just wanted to get this out there for anyone else who's in a relationship similar to this and also because I just need some support right now.
All I want is to be happy.
P.S If I'm not online for over a month because I died, my boyfriend probably killed me.