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How to live life on age 18-20?, This is not a debate.

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This is not a debate, As I am in my end of age 17, I have some doubts about what to do in next as I reach adulthood. Anyone who crossed that age can participate, this is more than debate, I need some experience in this. Only guys. This would likely a conversation.

Round 1
Pro
#1
Welcome Mr, 
I almost spent 17 years and 10 months in this real, unimaginable , undescribed earth . And I am very near to reach 18, 18 is not just a number, It gives me somewhat new than other ages, it gives me maturity, it gives me all rights, I can drive, vote, travel, any. But I also leave  something , that is the thing which created me, I want to leave my parents to start my new era of college life. From this point I lived my life without knowing who I am, what I am born for , But this point I need some goals.

*I want to know what you felt when you reached this stage [18] , did you was matured in this stage, Say your feelings at this time,..

To this time , I lived life without aim, I just lived life as it comes, not thought  much , I just lived by guidance of parents , and teachers,. and last my three years ,I only focussed on studies , not only me almost 90 % students in that time focussed only on studies, since we are in India , majority are middle class , to improve our standard of living our  only reliable ladder is studies. We enrolled in colleges based only on our 12th grade[standard] marks on our state colleges, this is the reason , so we used to study for marks instead of learning, But seniors say clg is different than school , there we learn, do , instead of studying, In some bless I got 95.7 % in my 12th, This allows me to enroll in top 10 colleges in our state. Though we are in different regions , Your experience will help me.

*Did you find any difference in your college life, And how you selected your field for graduation, how you found for what purpose you born for.
*Say about your character, And how you found your character.

                                I want to tell , that our state has big craze for computer engineering and its branches like IT, almost 6 out of 10 people says that they want to learn computer engineering, and almost 3.5 out of 10 people study computer engineering ang its branches. Even though IT job is most stressful job in India, people choose IT job because it gives immediate high salary . But I am little different , I am interested to learn electronics engineering.
                                My aim in 10th standard is to become doctor, but due to several factors like financial, and need to spend 10 years for study to get high salary, and a hardest entrance exam called NEET, I dropped this aim in that year.
                                I started searching for aim in my 11th grade, and I chose to become bio medical , aeronautical engineering , but I not have much maturity at that time because I chose those courses just for fantasy. and they are very short time in my aim.
                                In 12th I fully went into studies, After 12th I have 6 months free time before entering clg, I still have 3 months, And I chose to move towards electronics side , because I felt interested in learning electronics in my 12th physics. I think this my last and best aim.

*Say what struggles you felt before choosing your field, and what struggles you faced after choosing your fields,.
*And say something which you wish to tell to me .
*What are your problems related to your relations and family in age 18-22.
Con
#2
You Stand at the Border of Boyhood and Manhood.

You ask me what I felt at 18.
I felt nothing. Because I wasn’t done becoming.
The number is ceremonial. A legal fiction. You don't magically become a man when a calendar turns. You become a man the moment you accept full strategic responsibility for your life—your wins, your failures, your mind, your emotions, your time, your outcomes.
I didn’t celebrate turning 18. I studied. I planned. I separated from weak people. I built systems. Because the world doesn’t care if you're excited to be an adult. It only cares if you're useful, dangerous, or irrelevant.

Your Past Was Survival. Your Future Must Be Command.

You say you lived without aim. That’s fine. Most people do. But now you must switch operational modes. No more drifting. No more fantasy. You’re no longer a passenger in your life. You are the architect.
Forget marks. Forget prestige. What problem will you devote your life to solving?
You talk about engineering. That’s good. Engineering is power. But don’t chase it just for safety or salary. Build mastery so sharp it cuts through the noise. Build leverage—tools, systems, code, inventions, networks—that compound your power without consuming your time.

You Don’t Find Purpose. You Design It.

Purpose isn’t something you “find.” It’s something you forge. Through pressure. Through exposure. Through suffering. Through doing.
Don’t wait for clarity. Act. Act relentlessly. Clarity follows motion. Burn the fantasy careers. Choose something real. Then go so deep into it that you don’t even recognize the man you used to be.

My Character? Ruthless Discipline. Relentless Curiosity. Systemic Thinking.

I didn’t “discover” who I am. I built who I am.
Every habit, every routine, every hard choice layered into the next version.
The name Victor Vitalis is not a birthright. It is a construction. A weapon.
You want character? Then make your word law. Do what you say. Finish what you start. Measure what matters. Cut distractions like cancer. Become unrecognizable to anyone who knew you last year.

Your Struggles Are Training. Use Them.

You ask what struggles I faced choosing my path.
I faced fear. Isolation. Uncertainty. Poverty. But I turned them into fuel.
You must do the same.
Whatever slows you—financial pressure, family pressure, burnout—it’s your crucible. Master the chaos, or be mastered by it. Those are your only options.

Final Orders:

  1. Kill the fantasy. Choose one thing. Go deep.
  2. Build systems. For study. For thinking. For health. For money.
  3. Track your inputs and outputs. Always know what works.
  4. Surround yourself with killers. Anyone not on mission must be minimized.
  5. Document everything. Your wins, your failures, your strategies.
  6. Never wait. Waiting is death. Act. Learn. Adjust. Advance.
Welcome to the Arena. Burn your past.
Begin your ascent.

Victor Vitalis
Round 2
Pro
#3
     The purpose of debate is well satisfied for me from your previous argument, However I want to extend this debate to some more topics.

                                    In this argument , I would talk about things related to mind, personality and mental behaviour.

Stress:
             In my kid stage until my age of 15, I didn't knew about stress , so I not felt stress during that period, like how a 1 year old baby does not fear about snake. I faced many stressful events during my last two years , Stress may be caused due to our own mistakes, but sometimes I face stress due to people who are near me , This stress makes me more stress than others , because Idk what to do at that time, I mostly faced stress due to family issues. 
 
* I want to know do faced any huge stress during 18-20, what are your usual stress matters due to personal/family/study.

*Do you find any method to handle with stress. When you started feeling what is stress?

Mental personality:
              To tell about my mental personality,  I am little lite hearted , when a person who are closer to me scolds me it will hurts me more , not only that day but extends more than that, and those things will store in my mind for very long time. And I am a person who feels more guilty to even kill small insects. And I will be too careful with my words that shouldn't  hurt others feeling. And I like solitude. And I am very different from people around me, that is I don't listen songs in fact I listen song very rare time that is twice year. But I don't hate songs. But 95% people around me listen songs daily. I am not rude like other boys. I always give respect to other's feelings. But due to this soft nature innocent. But I am not innocent or Inferior I just wanted not to hurt others.

* Can you say about your mental personality now vs that in teen, did you changed that.
* Whether we can success only if we rude to others in this world, because above 80% persons(boys) I have seen are rude.

                                      And most important thing is most of person in our surroundings , usually talk about you good when you are there, but in other times they talk about only your mistakes , they are more happy with others mistakes especially friends.


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#4
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