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Topic
#6320
Is it ethical for parents to try to prevent or “change” their child’s homosexuality?
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- 3
- Time for argument
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- 10,000
- Voting period
- Two weeks
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Contender / Con
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Pro- Duh
Con-oh hell no
Round 1
Con
#2
(Note: read comment #9)
You know, I often hear people say, “It’s out of love.”
Oh, darling—love doesn’t come with conversion therapy.
Love doesn’t say, “You’re broken.”
And it sure as hell doesn’t come with the audacity of thinking you can edit a soul.
Let’s get one thing straight here—your child’s sexuality is not a parental DIY project.
It is not ethical—not even remotely ethical—for parents to try to “prevent” or “change” their child’s homosexuality. End of story. Because what you're really doing is forcing conformity, not fostering care.
You are not “protecting” the child. You are protecting your own discomfort- your own insecurity. And if you think that’s parenting, then let me introduce you to a little word called harm.
Studies by the American Psychological Association and UNICEF have consistently shown that attempts to change a child’s sexuality—whether through control, coercion, or the silence of shame—lead to increased rates of depression, self-harm, and suicide.
You cannot say “I love you” in one breath and crush their identity in the next.
And what is this fear anyway? That your child won’t get married? That society will whisper? Let them whisper. Let them choke on their whispering. Because ethics is not about catering to social comfort—it’s about standing up for human dignity.
And NO parent has the moral right to bulldoze their child’s truth just to build their fantasy of a “perfect” son or daughter.
This is not tradition. This is not culture. This is emotional violence dressed in family values.
So, let me end with this:
You cannot love someone and simultaneously wish them into someone else.
And if a parent truly wants to raise a child with ethics, start by respecting the one thing no one else can ever own—their identity.
O Aditya? No. O Morality. O Constitution. O Conscience.
Let it sink in. Thank you!
Round 2
Pro
#3
Thank you IamAdityaDhaka for a challenging and compelling debate!
Before I begin, if you haven’t read the comments, I unfortunately forfeited due to lack of time, which wasn’t measured properly.
Please read the comments for more information.
Both me and IamAdityaDhaka agreed not to count the first forfeiture for future voting. Please note that.
I will first present a rebuttal for con’s argument. Then, I will present my own argument.
With all that said, I will start with the rebuttal:
Con has presented a strong argument, but also made one big mistake: he did not add the parents perspective. Which, I believe, is crucial in this debate.
, “It’s out of love.”Oh, darling—love doesn’t come with conversion therapy.Love doesn’t say, “You’re broken.”
I agree with you, coercive conversation therapy is harmful and overall unethical. Ok but here’s the thing: not every parents who struggle with their child’s gender/identity engages in conversation therapy. They’re merely trying to protect their long preserved culture/religion.
How would you feel if everything that you did in your routine is suddenly forever changed? If I was you, I would try to bring it back. That’s exactly what this situation is like. This isn’t a monster we’re talking about, its called normal human fear.
Let’s get one thing straight here—your child’s sexuality is not a parental DIY project.
Of course its not. But parenting has always involved shaping values, beliefs and behaviour in many aspects of a child. Like how a child eats, speaks or sleeps. We must remember that the line between guidance, and control exists. And it must be drawn carefully. Labelling a parents discomfort or hesitation as “parental DIY project” just oversimplifies the entire process of upbringing.
You are not “protecting” the child. You are protecting your own discomfort- your own insecurity. And if you think that’s parenting, then let me introduce you to a little word called harm.
Let me introduce you a little word called fear. Now, many parents experience fear from their child every single day. And obviously we can’t stop some things from happening, but they still try to protect whats left. Fear that they will lose it all. Fear that their child won’t make it out alive. Fear that they will never be good parents. According to the Pew Research Centre (2022), 37% of Americans believe same Ge gender relationships are wrong, 46% of people don’t even care, which means that they haven’t even experienced this situation. Now I don’t know if your goal is to shame them into silence, or bring them to understanding, but calling the 37% of people insecure is just a excuse to avoid meaningful engagement.
Studies by the American Psychological Association and UNICEF have consistently shown that attempts to change a child’s sexuality—whether through control, coercion, or the silence of shame—lead to increased rates of depression, self-harm, and suicide.
Ok but can we also consider the child themselves. Not all humans have the same way of thinking. Which is exactly why mainstream psychology condemns conversation therapy. The parent’s might not have even disagreed, they might be just a little bit against it, and yet, the child might have a weak state of mind, hence thinking of suicide. I agree that parents could go softer, but fear may turn them onto the wrong direction. In fact, a JAMA Pediatrics (2021) study found that LGBTQ youth who had at least one adult who respected their identity were 40% less likely to attempt suicide. That respect doesn’t have to mean full agreement. It means presence, protection, and patience.
You cannot say “I love you” in one breath and crush their identity in the next.
Very powerful words. However, love does not always mean accepting, if we accepted every single thing thats put in front of us, well, that, in my opinion, isn't how love works. Love involves wrestling with the truth, love also involves understanding and love can also involve mistakes. The truth is, parents may genuinely believe their child’s identity is spiritually or dangerous, not out of hate, but through their deepest understanding of whats right. If you are telling them to abandon their belief instantly, you’re basically asking them to abandon their own identity.
Let’s look at the harsh reality, in the end, someone has to give in to the others side. This session takes somewhat months, even years to fully move on. Some side with their parents some parents side with their child. And in my next argument I will show you why parents are the right people to side with.
Argument
Now I will start the next argument for round 2 which will be heavily based on religion.
Note that con will also have to make rebuttals based on religion.
Religious frameworks don’t revolve around self-expression or modern cultural norms. They revolve around obedience to divine law. If a parent genuinely believes that homosexual behavior is sinful and puts their child at risk spiritually — then acting to prevent that behavior isn’t hatred, it’s moral duty.
Now let’s be precise: this doesn’t justify abusive behavior, forced conversion therapy, or emotional manipulation. Those are separate moral failures. But the act of trying to influence or guide a child away from homosexuality, through religious teaching or personal example, is ethically consistent within their belief system.
We allow parents to shape their children’s values all the time. A secular parent might teach that sexuality is fluid and self-defined. A religious parent might teach that sexuality has moral boundaries. The difference in worldview doesn’t make one ethical and the other unethical. What matters is whether the parent is acting in sincere pursuit of what they believe is good — and within that, religious parents are operating from a well-defined, internally consistent moral code.
So if we’re judging this from a secular lens only, we dismiss half the picture. But if we take the religious worldview seriously — which we must in any fair ethical discussion — then yes, it is ethical for a parent to attempt to guide, prevent, or discourage homosexual behavior in their child, as long as it’s done through conviction, not coercion.
Con
#4
My opponent wants me to review his argument only on the basis of religion.
Wants to dictate what I must do in my round?
Sweetheart, this is a debate, not a religious sermon. And if you’re playing God, then I’m here to bring the thunder.
You said I have to “rebut using religion”?
Excuse me? Trying to write my argument for me? That’s rich- especially coming from someone who spent half their round romanticizing fear and the other half soft-launching spiritual gaslighting.
Parent's fear does not excuse harm. You don’t get to traumatize your child and then cry “but I was scared” or “I wanted everything to be normal”. That’s not parenting. That’s cowardice hiding behind culture.
“Parents shape beliefs like how a child eats, speaks or sleeps.”
Yes, they do. But there's a slight difference between broccoli and bisexuality.
You can encourage bedtime routines.
You cannot “encourage” heterosexuality like it’s an after-school hobby.
This is not chess club, this is someone’s identity.
Parents can guide. They cannot rewire.
“Love means wrestling with the truth.”
Sure. But if your version of “love” means treating your child like a theological crime scene, then that’s not love. That’s emotional conversion therapy with lipstick on it.
And by the way, just because you wrestle with something doesn’t mean you pin your kid to the mat and call it moral clarity.
“Respect doesn’t mean full agreement.”
Cute sentence. Let’s flip it.
Would you respect your child’s heterosexuality if they were raised in a pro-LGBTQ household and wanted to become a celibate monk? Would you tell a straight teen “Hey, I disagree with your orientation, but I respect you”?
No. You wouldn’t. Because we all know this isn’t about disagreement. It’s about discomfort dressed up as discipline.
“Religion gives moral consistency.”
Oh honey. Consistency is not the same as correctness.
Plenty of things were once morally consistent—slavery, caste discrimination, child marriage.
Religion is not a free pass to moral immunity. You don’t get to throw out ethics and say “God said so.”
In fact, if your religion tells you to make your child feel ashamed for who they are, maybe it’s time to ask why you’ve made fear your God and bigotry your Bible.
“It’s not hatred—it’s moral duty.”
Trying to erase someone’s identity is not “moral duty.”
It’s psychological violence in parental packaging.
And don’t come at me with “Well, if done without coercion, it’s okay.”
Please. That’s like saying, “I gently told my child they were a disappointment.”
Just because you didn’t shout doesn’t mean you didn’t destroy.
And finally, to your line:
“If you are telling them [parents] to abandon their belief instantly, you’re basically asking them to abandon their own identity.”
No. We are asking them to do what every decent parent is expected to do:
Put their child’s life, safety, and mental well-being above their own biases.
That is not abandonment. That is maturity. That is parenthood.
And if your beliefs cannot coexist with your own child’s existence—maybe it’s not the child who needs changing.
Parents are not moral monarchs.
They are stewards. Guardians. Grown-ups.
And the moment they start using their child’s identity as a battlefield for their insecurities or scripture-based panic—
They lose the right to call that parenting.
So no, it is not ethical to try and change your child’s sexuality. It is not love. It is not duty. It is delusion.
And if your argument depends on fear, fantasy, and forced faith—then don’t expect me to treat it like it came from a place of reason. This isn’t just a rebuttal.
This is a reminder: Your child was never the problem. Your discomfort was.
MY ARGUMENT #2:
The topic asks whether it is ethical for parents to try to “change” or “prevent” their child’s homosexuality. The right answer is a clear no. A parent may have personal, cultural, or religious discomfort, but that does not give them the ethical right to interfere with a core, unchangeable part of their child’s identity. Just because a parent is uncomfortable does not mean the child must be “fixed.” Ethical parenting is based on support, not control. Attempting to change a child’s sexuality, no matter the method, is a violation of that principle.
In every case—whether it’s fear, tradition, belief, or concern—a parent trying to change their child’s sexuality is neither effective, ethical, nor justified. It leads to trauma, it doesn’t succeed, and it treats the child’s identity as a problem to fix rather than a person to love. That is not parenting. That is control.
Let’s talk ethics. Parents are supposed to protect, not ‘fix’ their children. Trying to change a child’s sexuality isn’t guidance — it’s control. It's forcing shame where there should be pride, and science backs this up. Studies show that attempts to change someone’s sexuality — often under the disguise of 'therapy' — lead to anxiety, depression, and even suicide. So let’s call it what it is: psychological harm masked as parenting.
And no, 'intentions' don’t justify actions. Even if parents say it’s out of love, love that demands a child erase who they are isn’t love — it’s ego. It’s about the parent’s discomfort, not the child’s wellbeing.
Trying to ‘change’ someone’s identity isn’t just unethical — it’s dangerous.
I can say it's unethical, and it is. You can keep on saying that parents do it out of love, this religion says that about that, parents do it out love, out of the feeling of everything being normal again. There's no end to this. Parents who want everything to be normal again and think that changing their child's homosexuality will do it, need to adapt to the new normal.
- You can not ask me to respond to your arguments on the basis of religion or on the basis of this or that. It's on me to decide how I want to reply or on what grounds I want to reply. Get over it.
- What has religion has to do with someone deciding their gender? Homosexuality is one's personal choice, no religion, no parent, no friend, no government or anything can force them into changing it. It's NOT ethical. Loud and clear.
Thank you.
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They try to prevent homosexuality by bullying a child, usually telling him that he will burn in hell or get terrible disease, or by shaming him, disowning him, beating him...ect.
Um ok
What an absurd topic. And how do you prevent your child's homosexuality mr.21pilots? Funniest thing i have read in a while.
Of course
It was my mistake.
I understand. Can I just make my argument this round and you publish a longer argument?
I am truely sorry for forfeiting the first round, I was at a cultural festival and lost track of time.
I have prepared for this but it seems that I put it into one day which wasn’t what I intended.
If it is ok with you, I would appreciate it if you skipped round 1
Thank you for understanding.
My parents tried to prevent my homosexuality, and people around me mocked me for my "gay behavior". Now they wish I was gay.
Well, nvm then ig
Honestly, 1 week. I know that's a lot of time and I understand if you don't want to be waiting up to a week for my arguments. However, I'm crazy busy at work these days. I have to work overtime almost every day. I might still accept if the time for argument is 3 days however. I'll have to think about it.
How much time would you like?
I may just accept this one, then. I would prefer more time to write arguments, however. I have a very busy schedule.
Yes
Pro is to say yes it is ethical
Con is to say no it isnt
To be clear, you intend to take the Pro position?