Welcome my friend,
I hope this debate is completed fully. To ensure that, I’ve given more time between rounds.
Advising:
Definition:
Advice (also called exhortation) is a form of sharing personal or institutional opinions, belief systems, values, recommendations, or guidance about certain situations, relayed in some context to another person, group, or party. — Wikipedia
Advising Feels Too Heavy Nowadays:
Even though advising means transferring experience from one mind to another through speech, it has become too heavy and irritating these days — especially for kids, adults, and me.
Who are advising now?
It used to be mostly parents and teachers. But now, everyone is advising. Everyone is trying to motivate. When we exaggerate something, it leads to negative effects.
Motivation is supposed to be just a spark that starts the engine. But now it’s being used like fuel to keep the vehicle running — that’s not how it works. Over-advising leads to over-motivation, which causes a temporary dopamine boost. But when that boost fades, it leads to a crash — a dopamine drop.
In simple words, advising triggers motivation.
Motivation and advice are good — but only in small doses. Too much of it causes mental stress. These days, everyone is advising — even friends. A relative comes to your house and starts preaching: "Study this," "Do that," "Don’t do this."
They act like we’re not capable of thinking for ourselves.
Even strangers — people who don’t even know our names — begin advising us!
Bad Effects of Advising:
- Advising stops you from making mistakes. But without mistakes, nothing new is discovered. Mistakes are the father of invention. If you don’t make mistakes, you can’t be creative or skillful.
- Advising creates dependency. You start depending on others’ opinions. Then you struggle in new environments or during stressful situations, because you never learned to think on your own.
Advising and motivation are directly related.
People keep saying AI is growing every second, so you should study harder, every second. No fun. No break.
In India, people say:
"If you want to get into a good college, study 12 hours a day."
"If you want a job, work 12 hours a day."
Then they say:
"You’ll live peacefully when you’re old."
But this mindset is what’s making people die before 45!
Already the competition is crazy — and over-advising is only making it worse.
Alert:
As I live in India, my examples are based on Indian surroundings and culture.
Questions to Con:
- How many pieces of advice do you usually hear in a week?
- In what way has advice actually helped you?
- Has any of your natural talent or originality been harmed because of too much advice?
Your answers will help me build stronger arguments in the upcoming rounds.
I'm trying to build a great argument, but you're so right on the kind of advices that we hear nowadays, AND THIS IN FACT FOR ME WILL BE VERY DIFFICULT TO BUILD A REASONED ARGUMENT. And I'm so happy of this honestly