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@21Pilots
I think debates with many forfeits are 'usually done by, new for a day and gone, users.
Punishment might lose a bit of it's 'effect, in such cases.
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@LucyStarfire
I wouldn't give food to stray cats, for such a reason as you mention, can lead to more cats.
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Is a debater a logician or/and an orator?
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@LucyStarfire
I usually hate and ignore ads, myself.
Even at times when they are something I 'might be interested in.
Even when interested, it's often in one ear and out the other.
Well, I've None At All reading on advertising, so I don't have 'strong opinions on the subject.
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@LucyStarfire
Any idea who they try to bring in and how?
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@LucyStarfire
I would think a 'community channel would make the most sense, where members can submit videos to be approved for the community YouTube channel.
I think advertising directly to ordinary people can be expensive,
While on the other hand, Big Names might think it would make good content or do good to society to encourage debate,
Some people are just Big Names in Entertainment,
Others are Big Names in Debating.
Either way, the name drop of DART, seems to me advantageous to us, 'especially if we can convince many Big Names, to use the site, brief or long, without us paying the Big Names.
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@LucyStarfire
Wouldn't bigger names mean bigger exposure?
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@Sidewalker
It is possible you are right, but I think this because I am uninformed on the deal, or 'why it would supposedly be good.
Many of the restrictions on Iran’s nuclear program "have expiration dates," according to the Council on Foreign Relations, noting for example that centrifuge restrictions would be lifted after 10 years and limits on how much low-enriched uranium Iran can possess after 15 years.
"Some of the deal’s opponents faulted these so-called sunset provisions, saying they would only delay Iran building a bomb while sanctions relief would allow it to underwrite terrorism in the region," the organization said.
That doesn't really sound an 'ideal deal for us, (To me)
Why do we expect them to have any intentions to back away from their 'years of Iran and state-sponsored terrorism - Wikipedia?
. . .
I 'suppose they've continued their nuclear plans 'anyhow, so one can make the argument that it's better to 'try to get along, try to keep an eye on the situation.
Rather than let them continue in secret their own way, and hostile to us without any cooperation.
. . .
I 'must admit, I 'am leery of US military involvement in Iran,
Hard to know which way situations will go sometimes,
Though if Trump 'manages a quick end in some way, be a feather in his cap.
I'm a 'bit doubtful it'll be that easy, but some situations can go a lot of ways.
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I wonder how many Debate platforms have tried reaching out to big name people,
Surely big name people debate 'somewhere, other than on TV and College?
Or might want to encourage people to try a debate platform?
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@Mharman
Minecraft was all right, but I never got into the multiplayer mode with it much.
I've never played Terraria.
The NPC function sounds a bit more advanced than Minecraft.
"By completing specific goals, such as defeating a boss or obtaining a certain item, players can attract NPCs, such as a merchant, nurse, or demolitionist, to occupy houses they have built.[10][12] Some NPCs can also be acquired by finding them throughout the world.[28] After acquiring NPCs, players may buy or sell items from NPCs with coins or obtain services from them.[12][28] The happiness status of NPCs is controlled by two factors: the biome they reside in, and the NPCs they are neighbors with. Depending on their happiness, NPCs will raise or lower their prices and sell special items.[29]"
@NobodyInParticular
I don't think I tend to like 'multiple versions of a game that much. 1.0 then 2.0, and so on.
I tend to get fixed on the version I was introduced to, game just changes 'too much sometimes.
I also wonder where famous people debate.
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@LucyStarfire
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@Xyloaid
I think Israel would settle for peace, rather than to rule the Middle East.
Size-wise, just doesn't seem 'likely for them to 'rule.
But peace doesn't seem 'likely for them, with 'certain organizations and nations maybe.
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@LucyStarfire
I 'did, before I posted it.
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@LucyStarfire
Nah, I think I'll just assume you don't know.
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@LucyStarfire
How do you mean?
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@fauxlaw
'Would it have been easier years ago?
Not that I think Iran is on it's knees yet.
Trump only did the airstrikes 'after Israel knocked out a lot of Iran's air superiority I think?
Syria falling apart,
Many of Iran's proxies doing poorly against Israel,
The phone bombs,
Maybe Iran's also weakened itself a bit, by launching missiles at Israel for 'years, October 2024 Iranian strikes on Israel - Wikipedia, I mean 'yeah, that says 2024, maybe they didn't do it any previous years. (Not sarcasm, I'm not well read on international conflicts)
Course they also supplied their proxies with missiles I assume.
'Possible Iran finally going in for nuclear weapons,
I know people 'claim it's a cry wolf situation,
But for all I know they 'have been that close for a while, but were slowed down by various actions of other nations, or saw the near 'possibility as greater use than actually 'finishing development on nuclear weapons, and possibly being attacked for such.
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@Mikal
Oh I agree Israel has 'likely been nudging the USA behind closed doors, to intervene, I just don't agree with the word 'begged.
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@IlDiavolo
Some people claim that Iran already 'has tried to assassinate Trump, after Trump assassinated Soleimani.
Though Iran denied such, I think.
@Topic
Well, I'm not sure America has much 'liked Iran, for a 'long time.
Given their funding, proxies, encouragement of groups and attacks that America calls terrorist.
I find world politics irritatingly complex, and lean towards isolationism, except America 'can't lean towards isolationism, world's too small, too connected to ignore it.
But I'm still not fond of American citizens and soldiers being forced to Paladin.
I don't think Israel 'begged the USA for help,
I think it's more 'likely that Trump was either in cahoots early on, 'or he's being opportunistic now.
. . .
I'm still not sure these actions are 'ideal though.
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@n8nrgim
It 'sounds a bit like servitude, a class system, slavery by circumstance,
Which I suppose one 'could argue is better than nothing,
But 'something about it rubs me the wrong way.
I don't 'like our society depending on a class of poor people,
Though admittedly such can be hard to 'avoid, given that businesses often use poor labor 'outside of America,
But I don't think normalizing it or 'increasing where it occurs to be good.
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@WyIted
Are there any no longer existing political parties from history, that you have a fondness or interest in?
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@fauxlaw
Dancing oaken, sounded a euphemism for naked anyhow, in the context it was used.
I didn't celebrate, but I enjoy the long days, more time I can be outside if the mood takes me.
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Suppose there was an MMORPG,
Where the maps changed every day, or so?
Probably already are.
. . . I suppose it's 'comforting to know where everything is when you play a game, and people 'do enjoy replay value a fair bit.
. . People explore 'partially just so they know where stuff is.
I suppose Minecraft has a great variation of maps, with how big it's world is, and how 'many different worlds/servers there 'are.
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@#126 DebateCraft
World of DebateCraft
Final Debate Online
DebateScape
Debate Desert Online
The Debate Scrolls Online
DebateStory
Lord of the Debates Online
Mortal Debate
Debate Fighter
Call Of Debate
Personally, I think rebranding the name is a terrible idea.
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@Castin
There's story in the sense that the world, places, and individuals have history, motivations, lore.
I suppose a lot, though not all of the story is indirectly inferred, perhaps 'imagined and theorized by players.
Discovered in tiny pieces and put together.
But there's not story 'so 'much, in the sense of getting quests or character development of NPCs.
No game given goals.
I just found it fun to run around the world, gathering people, items, money, skills, buy a house, build a base, kill some faction leaders such as bandits and cannibals, fight stuff, explore.
Haven't played it in a while.
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Another feature I recall from Debate.org,
Was that the instigators first round would be visible, before acceptance.
I don't think that was necessarily bad,
It would give people more information on what type of debate they were accepting,
And what the Instigator 'meant more clearly, and was looking for in an opponent.
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I don't think the site needs to be rebranded,
I just suggested debatesanart, as I thought Debateart as a name had been lost,
But I think I see now that it was debate.org, that could not be obtained.
DART is catchy, I think.
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Debatesanart
Might not be taken, and could preserve the DART.
I'm not sure it 'rolls off the tongue though.
Debate's An Art
Debate Is An Art
Debatesanart
Be more, DAART, I suppose, but we could just say DART.
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@Mharman
There 'is argument about kids though,
Schools discourage cursing.
Argument about smoking or nudity,
Just 'unpleasant for people to experience sometimes, and they'd prefer to be part of an location that bans such.
Restaurants for example.
If I was a parent, I'd avoid cursing around my kids.
@Self
Dart. . . Dart. . .
Debate About Rational Truth?
Debaters Around Round Table?
Debate Argue Reflect Talk?
Debaters 'Av'The Round Table?
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As some people have noted on earlier threads,
'What makes a profile picture of a movement or individual hateful?
'So much messed up in history, I am more inclined to be against a profile picture of nudity, a middle finger, a curse word spelled out, someone being hanged.
Than I am against a profile picture or Adolf Hitler or the Nazi Flag.
Different countries and cultures can 'vary a bit in what is considered a slur or vulgarity, maybe.
If Moderators Edit the post and remove the slurs,
I think they should leave a (REDACTED BY MODS) in place of the slurs.
Or 'some type of evidence how a post has been altered. Rather than invisible Moderation.
. . .
Does Moderation intend to edit all past posts that may have used slurs?
I think the site is 'overall solid,
I thought the Questions function, where one could ask users questions was a decent feature, but by it's removal I assume there were bugs or backlash by people annoyed by it.
. . . I suppose profiles 'could turn on/off ability for others to ask them questions.
But there is something said for KISS, Keep It Simple
I liked Opinions and Polls for Debate.org, but they seemed hard to Moderate.
I suppose they 'could be brought back, if only chosen by Moderation, but people's opinions 'do change over time, and sometimes dislike a past choice being forever on their face/profile.
They 'were useful in inspiring official debates, I suspect.
Still, KISS, maybe.
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'Ideally I think I'd like to vote 10 times for every debate I have.
10's a nice round number.
But 5s not bad either.
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@Vader
What were your expected rankings of said cities 'before you visited them?
Did you have any expectations of particular cities or cultures?
Were there some aspects the same no matter where you went?
I've heard even McDonalds can vary, country to country.
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Also, just passed you on the leaderboard for votes cast on debates.
Muhaha.
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@Castin
@#16
Oh! I 'love Kenshi.
Though some moments seem like a lot of waiting, and it seems to use of a lot of memory at times.
Game also 'struggles a bit when you separate your squad too much in distances.
I enjoy not saving and reloading most of the time, unless a character dies from an unfair glitch, or my not paying attention.
Having multiple characters, but the squad living on, allows one to enjoy the hardcore experience, without fear of too much lost progress.
I enjoy 'collecting items, weapons, armor, books.
Found it fun to 'look for the perfect place to build my base, all the different landscapes.
Struggling 'desperately to save comrades or self from death.
Escaping, freeing, stealing.
Bounties.
Kiting the AI.
Recruiting random NPCs, then giving them custom names and appearances,
Keeping track of when people joined, what they have done, imagining personalities and backstories.
Exploring ruins for the first time,
Attempting assaults or raids of locations.
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@Barney
0.33 would work for me,
I don't really have 'any percentage in mind.
I suppose style is pretty subjective, not clear cut objective as logic or sources tend to be.
But many people in 'real 'life, use style 'over logic or sources, to great effect. Unfortunately or not.
It 'has such effect, to my mind argues it's value in being considered.
Overtly or covertly,
People are swayed by style,
One of the profiles has Hitler, probably going to be a style hit in most peoples thoughts, conscious or not.
One of the debaters makes snide sneering 'almost insult remarks throughout, going to annoy some voters, but not be enough for conduct, it's a style hit.
Sure people 'try to be objective when voting,
But little details of styles predispose the voters thoughts.
Possible examples
Nixon vs Kennedy, TV vs Radio.
Howard Deans infamous yell.
Job interviews, appearance matters.
Style of speech matters, impacts people's reception of you.
Sure, people are 'legible, even with bad style, appearance, grammar, but it still effects their arguments.
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I think an important question, is 'who votes and debates on debate sites?
Many are novices, amateurs, and casual debaters, I am sure.
Separating who won into multiple parts such as convincing arguments? reliable sources? legibility? conduct?
Allows for 'training wheels so to speak,
'Or as simple guideline 'reminders to voters.
Not everyone reads or 'rereads the guides on voting, many don't even 'know of some guides DART recommends, I'm sure.
Personally, I always 'enjoyed (From debate.org)
Who did you agree with before the debate?
Who did you agree with after the debate?
People (Not all) often like feedback, or can mistake winning a debate, for being enough to convince the voters.
I think the system is fine as it is,
People have the 'option during creation of their debate, to choose the type of voting their debate has.
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I suppose one could argue adding one point for style,
In current debates.
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Sometimes I'd rather 'half thumbs up a comment,
Than full thumbs up approve a comment.
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To encourage voting.
I suppose if the website had used Site Given Profile Avatars,
Certain rewards could have been unlocked,
Clothing items, backgrounds, colors.
Being in Top 10 or 1st on leaderboard,
Could give profile items, but you have to maintain your position of you lose said item.
. . .
I'm pretty happy with the bring your own profile art though.
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I wonder if one 'could make a debating MMORPG?
I'm not sure AI have developed enough, so it would have to require active human judges?
Course Jade Empire had a primitive debate system, and one 'probably could program a 'limited debate system where you are given options to choose as your arguments. AI could handle 'that.
. . . I've never played Ace Attorney Phoenix Wright.
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@Topic
I like the idea of,
"leave no-vote results by clock-out on the clock until at least one vote is registered."
Though I think 'ideally, it would require more votes, perhaps 10, before clocking out.
Maybe best as an 'option though, when setting up the debate.
Sock puppets,
'Are always a problem,
Even with voting requirements.
Never Clock Out
I think I recall some debates on Debate.org, 'never clocking out,
There 'is the, vote request thread,
But it doesn't always manage to garner votes.
6 Month Voting,
Is what I tend to set my debates as.
Partially that they 'might gain votes,
Partially allows me to avoid debating for a while.
Some Individuals 'Will Vote If asked,
Though not always, and such 'is extra work, in what perhaps could be solved by changing debate mechanics.
Forfeit Debate Votes,
Get votes at times because they're so easy I imagine.
Doesn't seem fair for the person who put in time to have their effort wasted.
Doesn't seem fair 'either though, when 'both individuals put in effort and get no vote, but such is harder to vote on.
I don't think I 'usually vote on forfeit debates, unless there's enough rounds by one of the users, and I actually give my views of their arguments.
Voting Rewards
I think it already gives those green credit things.
Leaderboard of votes is kind of nice, competitive.
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@n8nrgim
I've heard that war needs to keep political ends in mind,
"No one starts a war--or rather, no one in his sense ought to do so--without first being clear in his mind what he intends to achieve by the war and how he intends to conduct it."
- Clausewitz
"War is thus an act of force to compel our enemy to do our will."
- Clausewitz
Entering into war doesn't turn off politics,
More often it's politics that 'end wars,
Countries want to achieve some objective, that they can trade at the bargaining table, to force an enemy to terms.
He also talks about destroying the enemy,
But I remember him saying of engagements,
"Engagements mean fighting. The object of fighting is the destruction or defeat of the enemy."
- Clausewitz
He 'talks about absolute war, but,
However, war never achieves its absolute nature because: "war is never an isolated act;" "war does not consist of a single short blow;" and "in war the result is never final."
- Clausewitz
War often doesn't 'go that far, it's some platonic theoretical war.
Though he does use Napoleon as an example of being revolutionary in how much manpower and effort he got out of France,
It was the whole nations war, not just the leader and the army, all were involved and pressing forward in a sense.
. . .
What's the long term plan for Israel though?
Seems as though they're a bit in a 'forever war with many of their neighbors.
'Ideally, peace could come about, but if not, is their plan to keep doing targeted strikes at military sources of power large enough to be final dangers? (Such as Nukes)
. . . Is that 'sustainable?
I suppose the Middle East, maybe Iran could lack in the highest tech for hundreds of years.
. . . But as nukes become more common, maybe they'll get their hands on some 'eventually.
Some type of 'peace seems more ideal, but I'm not sure they 'can get peace with some regimes.
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@zedvictor4
Well, it 'sounds they've identified the killer.
My bet is an extremist individual.
. . .
I had some chicken strips, cheese, goldfish, carrots, couple potatoes.
spinach and ricotta tortellini with a tomato, courgette and basil sauce
'Does sound tasty.
broccoli mushroom and feta tart
Looks a bit like a pizza.
Sounds a braver man than I, just some countries I'd feel uncomfortable traveling.
Even some places in America.
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@zedvictor4
Mostly been trying to convolute some type of argument on animals not experiencing suffering,
Failed in trying to make a reincarnation argument,
Trying to think of 'reasons for pain, glance reading over old writings on the subject online some.
Searched a usb for a past conversation on coping skills.
Sliced up and microwaved on low power, some potatoes.
Read a Ciaphas Cain book,
Tried reading a book on aliens called Imminent, but couldn't take it seriously. Claims are just too outlandish for me.
Been playing a lot of Faster Than Light, on Steam, recently.
. . .
Has there been some assassination or attempt recently, in America, on politicians?
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I suppose 'ideally, an older individual 'ought have some advantages.
Knowledge, more you grow, more you know, Ideally. both broadly, and their specific field of expertise.
Reputation, more years viewing a potential leader, often gives you more time to study and judge their quality and aims.
. . .
Lots of jobs require regular certification of ability and knowledge.
'Ideally the older individuals are still taking these tests, and regularly studying, applying.
. . . Not 'all jobs though.
I wonder if people would pay for their politicians to regularly take classes in college, could be a cheap online college?
That they 'are actually improving with time.
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@ADreamOfLiberty
@MayCaesar
Ought not disease be seen a bit as punching someone in the face?
Sometimes with an 'axe, deadly as some diseases are?
Take of instance people with STDs, maybe they ought not be allowed to have sex with unknowing people?
. . .
I suppose I would be against regulating society and people whose medical status we did not know, (In current society)
But depending on 'how much of an STD problem there was, (Depending on how many lives it saved)
Lockdown was the forced face masks and distancing, right?
Quarantine, would be forcing an individual to not leave their house or city?
. . . I haven't thought about it much. . .
Could required handwashing be considered a lockdown of sorts?
Such doesn't completely 'prevent disease spread, but is there no value in 'decreasing spread speed and chance?
. . . Hm, maybe Covid was 'too easily spread for it to matter?
But then the common cold is easily spread, but people find value in facemasks and handwashing.
Government was still working on vaccine and waiting for disease to run it's course then, as reasons for temporary lockdown?
Still need 'some economy, but trying to avoid mass deaths that mess economy up more, or cost more deaths than was acceptable?
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@zedvictor4
@ #1
What happened?
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@IlDiavolo
Madness can be but a step away sometimes in life, I'd agree.
Straws on camels backs,
And limits of human endurance.
Though it's amazing what some people in history 'have endured.
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I'm fond of a smoky quartz, that a coworker gave me.
He said it would keep away bad luck, which I find amusing.
But I 'do like the idea, it encourages me to be aware of what 'is in my control,
The effort that I put into Mindfulness and Reaction.
I'm fond of Ego.
Course, you also have some programs such as the 12 steps. Some of which.
Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
. . .
Involve a giving 'up of Ego.
A willingness to admit when a situation is beyond oneself.
I'm not sure Atheists can so easily turn their lives over to 'God though.
But I suppose that is what the 'Power and As We Understood Him is for.
. . . What one 'highest Values then, perhaps.
From some people it's a Goal, a Dream, something they 'want. Maybe they want to protect/help/stop hurting those they love.
Maybe they want to 'enjoy life and not suffer,
Purpose 'might be to maximize that Rock, whatever it may be.
Some people,
I think are able to 'Compare Experiences,
Whether their 'own past or another's.
If one has experienced some 'greater pain and difficulty. . . Yet they still live, they 'survived, and 'can again, their current experience will not kill them either.
Other people's events, well, I 'do feel fortunate, that I have not suffered as many other people in life have and do suffer, when I compare my pains to theirs, my pain does not look so much.
I'm not in pain, this is just describing thought processes that people might have.
And in hardest times,
I think it's good to keep moving,
Keep getting sun, keep exercising, keep eating well, keep socializing.
No sun, no physical activity, no nutrition, no human contact.
'Usually going to make one feel worse,
But case to case basis I suppose.
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@Mall
Sometimes I read philosophy,
Sometimes they talk about anger, and putting situations in a different light,
I enjoy that well enough, try to implement it now and then.
But I've no 'huge anger problems I think.
If I could undergo a procedure to 'remove the ability to feel anger, I'd rather not.
Maybe anger can have uses.
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"He who has a why can bear any how"
― Friedrich Nietzsche
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(6) Practice positive affirmations.
Even when you feel good, it"s helpful to make self-reinforcing statements. However, these need to be realistic and practical. Saying "everything will be wonderful in the end" may not be helpful, because sometimes things do not turn out this way. However, saying "No matter what obstacles are thrown at me, I am strong enough to overcome them" is quite different. Whether you initially believe it or not, practicing saying it aloud will reinforce those beliefs and you will start to believe them. No matter where you are, keep your self-affirming thoughts going.
It's good to be aware of and remind ourselves about what makes us good people.
Everyone has faults, but we shouldn't forget we have virtues as well.
Which 'can be easy to forget when we are in bad situations and thought, and all is mired around us.
Remembering what is true and good about ourselves however, can help lift us up from depressed circumstance and thought.
(7) Put positive suggestions by others into practice.
It is often helpful to ask for and really listen to feedback from your partner or a good friend. When you do, make it a point not become defensive, because receiving feedback often triggers negative thinking. You may find yourself gaining insight into how to cope more effectively.
Criticism can be hard to take, even if someone is 'trying to give positive criticism.
We can be thin skinned or feel vulnerable under other peoples perception and 'advice.
Some advice 'is toxic and unhelpful, but that's not reason to discard the good with the ill.
Discard the bad, but keep what you find 'does help you.
(8) Separate yourself from negatively thinking peers.
Often negative perceptions are reinforced by friends, especially when discussing personal or relationship struggles. If you need to talk it out, find one upbeat friend who is helpful to use as a sounding board.
Some friends, family, coworkers, situations, a person separate themselves from so easy.
When a person has a job, they 'have to work with their coworkers, but they don't have to be the friends one hangs with during break or after work.
One just needs to be aware of how others 'do effect them, and do what they can to mitigate it.
Bottom line: It"s very difficult, if not impossible, to live life happily when you feel insecure, unloved, distrustful of others, and threatened by events around you. But most of these feelings you create yourself. You can"t change the world, but you can change yourself and the way you perceive life events.
Certain situations 'are more likely to cause certain feelings than others.
But not everyone responds to situations in the same manner.
If someone cuts in front of you in traffic, or scratches your car. Some people might erupt in road rage, others in calm acceptance.
The difference then, 'isn't the situation, but the people. The car did not 'make anyone feel any certain way. But how the 'people chose to perceive, feel, and respond to the event.
Advice from people should be taken with a grain of salt, I think myself. 'Especially if they are someone unfamiliar with you or your situation. In the end any actions and results are yours. Just something you have to rely on your own judgement on whether it's a correct way of looking at a situation or acting. Because what advice one 'should take, or 'how they go about it does depend on their situation, what type of person they are, and if the advice was any good. Or if it can be tweaked a bit to suit.
Acting should only be at most a 'temporary way of coping (I think) though.
I forced myself to act through my job in the beginning, because I knew I'd be able to learn more that way, make some mistakes, but correct them and improve until I stopped 'having to act.
Sometimes one has a bad day, but one still has to work so they act and force through.
BUT, if every day is bad, and one doesn't expect anything to change by just 'acting. Then 'acting as a coping skill IS NOT WORKING. For the situation or how we feel about it, something else needs to change as well.
Whether the actions we take, how we think, how we perceive, or the situation itself. Though some of this changes itself with time.
It depends 'what a person wants to reign in about themselves.
How one would go about it.
What makes you good, is something that you can answer best.
If it helped, you could make it a task to put together even just 10 items/thoughts about positive aspects/skills/strengths about yourself.
It's harder to 'make such a list when one feels down about themselves, or in a difficult situation. But is because it can be harder to see one's positives in such a situation, 'not because they're not there.
First time I heard this story below was in a book Mission at Nuremberg by an American chaplain talking about his life experiences before and during war some.
"It is said an Eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent him a sentence, to be ever in view, and which should be true and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him the words: "And this, too, shall pass away." How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction! And this, too, shall pass away."
I think it's comforting when people can see a light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. To know/believe that the darkness will eventually lift. That we have good times ahead as well. That suffering we experience in life occurs for a purpose/reason.
'New thoughts, not from 5 years ago in the Topic: Record attempt at most posts?
Eh, people have desires,
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Advice on coping, well for example, there's this handout I had at work once,
Shedding Negative Thought Patterns
In order to combat distorted thinking patterns, you must learn to leave your negative thoughts behind. Mark Twain once quipped "Life does not consist mainly - or even largely of facts and happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts that are forever blowing through one's head." True, but the trick is not to stop the ongoing storm of thoughts, but rather to change the nature from destructive to positive and life enhancing ones. When that happens, you've made a giant step toward living a better life based on your positive self esteem and the personal confidence to deal effectively with life's problems.
Humans think lot, 'most the time. We have situations that trigger a response based on our beliefs/thoughts/interpretations of the situation. And actions/consequences for how we act/behave.
As you commit yourself to eliminating these negative ways of thinking, you must understand two factors. First, these unhelpful thinking patterns are much more likely to emerge when you are fatigued or highly stressed, or when there is a significant problem facing you. These situations weaken your ability to cope and contribute to distorted thinking. Ironically, these bad thinking habits emerge when there"s a problem, and that"s exactly when effective coping responses are needed most. When things are going reasonably well, they may not be apparent at all.
If coping skills are for crisis and difficult times in life, a lot of times, people won't have very good practice with them, as they might only use them when a crisis comes about. Meaning that it can be important to practice and have an ability to use them in times 'before a crisis occurs, so you can use them well.= when the time comes.
Other times it's simply harder to preform in a crisis, 'because it's a stressful situation. Easier to juggle practicing by oneself than on stage. But people can get used to preforming under pressure with practice.
If a skill doesn't work for an individual, it's possible it's just not the right fit. But it's also possible that it's like riding a bicycle for the first time. It takes practice before one can do it well, but once mastered it can make a task easier.
Also, many people do not experience these thought disorders with all problems. These habits instead tend to emerge when a problem touches on an area of personal vulnerability or emotional sensitivity. By noticing exactly when distorted patterns emerge, you can pinpoint unresolved personal conflicts, thereby enhancing your personal awareness. These emotional "soft spots" clearly call for strengthened coping skills.
Not everyone has the same problems or difficulties in life.
How do you get rid of these self-defeating ways of thinking? It can be done, but will require self-awareness, patience, practice and support.
Here are some helpful hints:
(1) Verbalize your thoughts when a problem occurs.
To build awareness of distorted thinking, think out loud when you have a problem. You may even need to record yourself and play it back. If you have a trusted friend you could run your thoughts past them to see how they sound when said aloud to another person. You may be very surprised at how negative and self-defeating your thoughts actually are. Remember that these thoughts reinforce negative perceptions of you and reality
Sometimes people get so used to a certain way of thinking, that they might not even notice they do it, or think about how it's making them feel.
But if a person thought to themself a hundred times in a day, "I'm a bad person, I can't do anything right."
How do you think they're going to feel?
Compared to a person who thought to themself a hundred times in a day, "I'm a good person, I did this well today."
It 'is important for beliefs about oneself to have truth in them, else even if they're positive affirmations we won't believe them.
But it's hard for a person or life to consist 'only of the bad.
Or for many people 'mainly of the bad.
And like that whole Native American wolf story I talked about earlier, the one we feed only grows stronger. If we aren't doing as well as we'd like, I don't think it makes us stronger or more likely to succeed by blinding ourselves to the positive parts of ourselves.
I think it makes us stronger to affirm what is good and strong within us. To build it up that is grows ever stronger.
(2) Do not project thoughts onto other people.
It"s easy to attribute unfairly negative thoughts to loved ones or close friends. To eliminate distorted thinking, first take full responsibility for your thoughts. Then open yourself to give other people a chance to care about you.
It's easy to lash out when we're under stress. Easy to think badly of others and their intentions.
Sometimes it's true. Family and friends 'can be toxic and do poorly by us. Don't ignore such if true.
But 'because it's easier to 'perceive such, rather than it to be true.
It can be important to be 'aware of it. To not jump to rash conclusions are statements.
Important to consider other possibilities, then act.
(3) Work on one habit at a time.
Most people are prone to several different negative thought patterns. To tackle them all at once is usually self-defeating. Instead, identify one distorted thinking habit and work on that one alone until it is eliminated. Then move onto another one until you overcome all of them.
I think this is true of much of life.
It can be difficult to multitask and solve multiple problems at once.
And if none of them get fixed, a situation can be as difficult or greater than before.
While if one weight is removed, the rest is easier to bear.
And becomes easier and easier to bear as one problem at a time is removed.
(4) Act as if you are completely competent and in control (Fake it until you make it!)
In the beginning, force yourself to do this in lieu of negative thinking in order to give new ways of relating to a problem a chance. You will feel better because problems don't seem so overwhelming, and you are coping more effectively. "What you say to yourself, you become."
If you're in trouble, or don't know how to accomplish a task DON'T Act as if you are completely competent and in control. Might make the situation worse.
There 'are moments in life one has to simply struggle through as they learn, the task becoming easier each time they complete it or fail. Knowledge gained either way.
And many times we can only learn how to ride a bicycle by failing a few times.
But it's better to try/learn something with other peoples help.
Safer and more practical.
The first time I ever tried leading a group at my job, I pretty much said, I don't know what to say.
I didn't know what the procedures were, what my superiors expected me to teach.
But eventually as I learned my job, and went ahead trying even when I felt uncomfortable.
I 'became comfortable, able to talk easy and do my job.
Even though I didn't quite know what I was doing until I had done it some number of times.
(5) Use thought-stopping as a technique.
When you find yourself slipping into distorted thinking, internally shout to yourself, "STOP!"
STOP -> THINK "> Then TALK/ACT
For some people, negative trains of thought can be difficult to derail or turn away to constructive thought. So they try being more active of their thoughts and 'forcibly turning them to positive directions or activities.
Until the negative thought process is no longer a habit for them.
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