Gender and cancel culture.

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If someone changes their gender, it is bigotry to refer to them in the way that they presented years ago: we accept people for who they are currently. If this were considered a good standard, then why is it acceptable to refer to an unsavoury tweet from a decade ago by a person who has since changed? 
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I am against the idea of cancel culture in the same way that I'm against the concept on which prison is based.

Some people think 'it went too far' here and there, I vehemently think that retribution itself is an illusion and in fact coming to terms with that is a huge step for anyone like myself that suffered with anger and had to really take it head-on if they were to improve themselves.  I know the dark side of cancel culture and peer-based retribution.

That said, I understand the thesis on which that approach is based and as someone from quite a left-wing upbringing and background, I am among family members who are very pro-cancel-culture but who also see exactly the issue with what you said, depending on the scenario.

The first and foremost line to draw between your two scenarios is that the person who has transitioned is neither completely lying (because even if they truly appear like another biological sex, if they are in a situation where someone would refer to them as their former-presented-gender, it means they are inevitably open about their born sex). The offensive poster often will try to hide the evidence, it's often screenshots made by others that come to haunt them (they can be fabricated but then the social media platform can get involved and trace things in their database time-wise to verify so falsely saying it's faked is somewhat a gamble because if it's severe and big-scale enough, the social media platform will oblige investigation but if you're just about lowkey enough for the drama not to surface to a severe level, then you can probably get away with the lie but it's foolish because you're most likely dealing with someone who has a series of honest screenshots and other encounters, reducing the likelihood they'd fabricate specifically for you).

The second line to draw is the confirmation of change. We can confirm someone transitioned gender literally by what they ask to be identified as (no, not some transphobic troll who does it for the lols, I mean in real life where nobody transitions for the lols). In contrast, many sociopathic types of people or even just normal people towards the sociopathic and/or narcissistic end of the spectrum will rather put a lot of effort into faking having changed as a person rather than ever really change. In fact, it's easy to understand why. If you were a genuine racist, sexist, sadist (who verbally bullied to depths you shouldn't have) or something along those lines and you personally fully believe the person you verbally abused deserved it, you wouldn't really be 'sorry' you'd just feel bad you said the toxic things on a platform that left proof which you hadn't foreseen. It's even more likely to occur when the exact type of toxic user meets a more cunning equally toxic user. Sociopaths and narcissists make brilliant baiters and cajolers for one another, oftentimes it was someone just as toxic who baited the other and took the screenshots, relishing in how they ruined the other person's career prospects and even life in general if their own family and friends 'cancel' them. In general, when very kind people read or receive abuse their instinct is to block the other user and tell only one or maximum two people they care about. On the other hand, when a particularly toxic individual reads or receives text and/or video that they feel is offensive and out of order, they'll relish in not only handling things so the person can't continue to abuse them but knowing that everyone in their local area (and hopefully local area of the abusive texter) knows about it. It's the natural way things go, if an abuser meets someone who is just as bitter and angry, then inevitably the clash will not remain bloodless on at least one of their reputations.

When you ask about the latter aspect of cancel culture, you are talking about what very often is one-on-one 'ha, got a screenshot now let me expose you' ethos. When you refer to the cancel culture that punishes people that misgender others and are transphobic, you tend to refer to people who may well be bitter and angry but who are morally motivated to defend someone that is being intentionally hurt and taunted.

So, I'm not denying that cancel culture isn't fair because it refuses to forgive. That isn't what I'm doing here at all. I'm saying to you that often the biggest examples of it involved an abuser who was an asshole and a recipient who wasn't the nicest guy/girl/genderfluid in the world either. That doesn't make what happened right. Abusive posts are abusive and the exposing of the abuser and cancelling of them is not at all a necessarily wrong thing primarily because we don't know if they really changed or are just going for the path of least resistance and pretending to have changed.
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If someone changes their gender, it is bigotry to refer to them in the way that they presented years ago: we accept people for who they are currently. If this were considered a good standard, then why is it acceptable to refer to an unsavoury tweet from a decade ago by a person who has since changed? 
I think I would want the specific circumstances before agreeing that mere reference qualifies as cancellation or even that the same standard ought to be applied to both cases.

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You cannot cancel gender.

Only alter it cosmetically.

And dress it up

In gender specific cloth.


Hey.

But whatever floats ones boat.


And when push comes to shove

Metaphorically speaking

It's all boils down to 

Boat floating.


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If someone changes their gender, it is bigotry to refer to them in the way that they presented years ago: we accept people for who they are currently. If this were considered a good standard, then why is it acceptable to refer to an unsavoury tweet from a decade ago by a person who has since changed? 
So essentially you're asking that if we could accept that a person has legitimately changed their gender, why can't we accept that a person has legitimately changed their mind? Good question. With that said however, if one engages the twitter, then the consequences are one's responsibility.
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the key issue is one changing their gender is always genuinely doing it because there's no motive to deceptively 'want' to do that beyond genuinely wanting to do it... There's plenty of reasons to pretend you changed from your toxic posts on social media, plenty indeed.

The issue isn't lack of reason to change the mind and person, it's lack of ability to prove.